When a man finally makes the move from blue pill to red pill, one of the hardest adjustments to make is to simply stop being nice. All our lives, society, media, family has taught us to be nice and good things will come, especially when on a date.
Open doors, pull out the chair, pay for everything and treat her like the snowflake she is…that’s what men have been inundated with for decades.
Facebook COO and queen feminist Sheryl Sandberg said it best:
“When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home.”
This is about as red pill a statement as anyone could make. Be nice, watch and wait patiently on the sidelines while the woman you pine after ploughs through as much alpha dick as humanly possible, only to settle for you, the ‘nice’ guy, in her later years.
Fuck that. Women do not respect ‘nice’ men…they settle for them, but they do not respect them. Stop being nice from the get go (i.e. your first date) and she will respect you from the get go. Remember first impressions are everything. Want hard proof, how about this from The Times if Israel…
An Israeli-led research indicates it might not be a good idea to be “nice” on your first date. Women, on the other hand, appear to benefit from being nice.
For what it’s worth, the research indicates women are are looking for “man-like” behavior early in dating.
The research is not definitive. It points to tendencies among members of a specific group — university students — and the results are possible trends, not absolute predictors.
This is how it works. Women are attracted to men who are masculine (not cushy and sweet), and men are attracted to women that are nice and feminine. How about that!
In the small, limited series of studies, single men tended to prefer single women who were more responsive to their needs and wishes in an initial conversation, finding them more feminine. Many of the women, on the other hand, didn’t really care how responsive the men were.
The psychologists behind the study say women may be looking at behaviors other than responsiveness to determine men’s masculinity and fitness as partners. Or, they say, women may interpret men’s responsiveness in a range of gendered ways — to the extent that it’s even possible to generalize about the tendencies of either men or women.
The study actually shows that women do not give a crap about men who are responsive to their needs with regards to sexual desire. So men, slow down and don’t bend over backwards for the girl, especially on your first date. Men on the other hand are more sexually attracted to women who are responsive to their needs and feelings…textbook red pill as the study confirms:
Data analysis of the results [of the study] showed that on average, the men saw more responsive women as more feminine, which made them more sexually aroused, which in turn made them more attracted to and interested in dating the women. It’s not the most cerebral process.
The analysis showed that the women were on average only slightly less attracted to men who seemed more responsive. The women were more attracted to men they found masculine, but they hardly associated responsiveness with masculinity.
The data obviously goes against all the feminists dogma and Disney movie brainwashing we are feed from five years of age up to adulthood…so what gives? The answer is evolution…
The opposite-sex tendency to prefer “manly men” and “girly girls” may be rooted in evolution. Men may be looking for nice nurturers, while women may want proactive providers. But people may rely more than usual on traditional gender roles to cope with the uncertainty of early dating, the psychologists say. The man is still expected to ask the women out and to pay for the date, they note.
‘Men can be sexually appealing in various ways, which are not necessarily associated with expressions of intimacy, whereas women apparently have to be responsive to be appealing.’
It would make sense then that men seem to initially find responsiveness – which they see as a feminine – attractive in women. In some cases, men may also simply be attracted to the attention as a sign of sexual interest, the psychologists say. If so, women looking for long-term relationships should aim to be responsive in a way that is feminine, rather than available – whatever that would look like.
When it comes to women’s desires, the fact that responsiveness isn’t a turn-off on average doesn’t mean women are above gender-based judgments. Rather, the psychologists say, women may be attracted to other behaviors that they perceive as better indicating men’s masculinity and fitness as partners.
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