The past decade has seen fatherhood shit on. Western media has been busy projecting a modern family where the mother matters most and the father is more of a disposable, replaceable cog in the engine of childhood development.
While the narrative makes for a convenient sell to the single mother, fatherless family demographic that’s springing up everywhere you turn, the red pill reality, as uncomfortable as it may be, is that fathers are not only good to have around, but an extremely integral part of a child’s all around well being.
From the NY Post:
Fathers, it turns out, contribute far more to their children than many of us realize.
Those contributions begin during pregnancy, before fathers and their children have even met. Studies show that the death rate of infants whose fathers were not around during pregnancy is nearly four times that of those with engaged dads. And depression in fathers during their partners’ pregnancies — which is more common than most people realize — can increase the child’s lifelong risk of depression.
After birth, children whose fathers play with them, read to them, take them on outings, and care for them have fewer behavioral problems during their early school years. And they have a lower risk of delinquency or criminal behavior as adolescents.
Well how about them apples. Fatherhood is a process that starts in the womb and continues onwards from K-12 and beyond. Looks like being a dad is a fucking big deal. A father’s influence holds more gravity than society lets on. Consider the below findings from relevant studies…
Some of fathers’ contributions are surprising. One might guess, for example, that mothers have more influence than fathers on their children’s language development. Despite the growing number of women in the workforce, mothers still spend more time with children in many families than fathers do.
But that turns out not to be the case. Lynne Vernon-Feagans of the University of North Carolina, who studies language development, has found that when it comes to vocabulary, fathers matter more than mothers.
In middle-class families, she found that parents’ overall level of education — and the quality of child care — were both related to children’s language development. But fathers made unique contributions to children’s language development that went beyond the contributions of education and child care.
When fathers used more words with their children during play, children had more advanced language skills a year later. And that is likely also linked with later success in school.
And when Vernon-Feagans looked at poor families, she found much the same thing. She visited families when a child was 6 months old, 15 months old and 3 years old. She found that fathers’ education and their use of vocabulary when reading picture books to their children at 6 months of age were significantly related to the children’s expressiveness at 15 months and use of advanced language at age 3.
This held true no matter what the mother’s educational level was or how she spoke to the children.
While we may naturally envision this deep influence between father and child to hold more sway for the father-son bond, studies are now showing that fathers have a powerful influence on their daughter as well, especially with regard to sexual behavior during adolescence….
This became clear in 2011 when Frayser High School in Memphis, Tenn., attracted national attention for its high pregnancy rate: About one in five of its female students was either pregnant or had recently given birth.
One local official blamed the high pregnancy rate on television shows such as MTV’s “16 and Pregnant” and “Teen Mom.” The official worried that these shows were encouraging Frayser’s female students to have unprotected sex earlier and more often.
That explanation seemed to make sense. But when psychologist Sarah E. Hill of Texas Christian University examined the situation, she noticed another striking fact: One in four households was headed by a single mother. Studies have revealed “a robust association between father absence — both physical and psychological — and accelerated reproductive development and sexual risk-taking in daughters,” she wrote.
The fathers’ absence in so many families was likely more important than what their daughters watched on television.
No matter how much our new world order tries to fight biology and evolution, facts remain irrefutable that our existence and success as a species, society and conglomerate of nation states is predicated on the proper functioning of the family unit, this means a mother and a father.
From the moment of impregnation, up until the time that child is sent out into the real world, the father is a major contributor to their child’s psychological, physical and sociological success. Why we try to push a narrative that fights the DNA we were given is a mystery to me.
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