One toughest parts of pick up is getting over approach anxiety. All men know that feeling of hesitation and insecurity that hits us right before we open that HB9. Failing in the approach can be bruising, but not making the approach leads to something much worse…regret.
Outcome independence is a man’s best friend…learning to brush off the NOs and moving on with getting that YES, is where real game begins and the red pill starts to take hold.
This post from a reddit user is a clever way to get you started on the road to finding that yes, and not giving a shit about everything else, because as the saying goes, “there are plenty of fish in the sea.”
To start with a bit about myself, I’m just you’re average guy with a normal, boring admin job. Not particularly attractive, not ugly, but I used to be TERRIFIED of women. This probably dates back to my school days when I was pretty overweight and definitely unattractive to girls. I asked a girl out in my class around 7th or 8th grade and got ridiculed beyond belief by all the girls in that class – including the one I asked out. In my opinion, that’s where my approach anxiety started and it might be the same for many men.
I started reading TRP a few months ago and things are finally starting to click (maybe I’m a slow learner). Night game is becoming a lot easier, probably due to alcohol and increased confidence, but until recently I was still afraid to approach women in the day. I realised this was probably because of my fear of rejection and that if she rejects me then I won’t get another chance at a girl as good looking blah blah blah…which eventually led to me not talking to her at all and then walking off feeling disappointed in myself.
So I started counting and writing down every girl I saw, that I would like to open. Just for this exercise, I only made note of of HB8’s and above. After 1 week I had seen 40 DIFFERENT GIRLS that I could’ve opened and were all above HB8.
And that was the moment when I thought “fuck it” and just started going for it. When I finally saw the abundance of good looking girls and all those chances missed, it was what I needed to realise that no one girl is worth getting all worked up and nervous over! Even if you mess up, there will still be an infinite number of chances!
If you live in a city alive with action, and buzzing with available women, than the above approach anxiety hack will work wonders.
If you are unfortunate enough to not be situated in a location conducive to pick up, or too full of men to even give things a go, then ignore the advice you just read and start searching for a way to change locales ASAP.
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